In as much as we want love and be loved, we should keep in mind that love should be a two way traffic for it to work out. If it will take the effort of one party to strugle and make things be complete then that is not love. For a liability one will always be.
We never want to feel or looked at as the losing party, it is not pride but what we as humans prefer at all times. The feeling of love outh to be mutual.